to DO or to NOT DO a first look?
That seems to be the big questions couples are facing lately. Photographers and wedding planners secretly love doing first look shots – they show amazing emotion, it gives the couple a chance to have a private moment before all the commotion begins, and it allows for a more relaxed timeline after the ceremony. I think the big question boils down to tradition. Some brides want that moment – you know the one – where the bride enters and the groom sees her for the first time. When he smiles and a tear rolls down his check. A moment that was made only more infamous by the classic J.Lo line in The Wedding Planner “When all eyes are on the bride, I’m watching the groom”.
I consulted Matt, a fabulous RI photographer from Blueflash Photography for his professional opinion and this is what he had to say:
“The first look has a ton of benefits and only one potential drawback. Let’s start with the potential drawback – you have to see each other before the ceremony. Tradition has long held that seeing your future spouse dressed in wedding attire before the ceremony would bring on bad luck. I’m not a very superstitious person, so I don’t put a lot of stock in that belief.
What I do put a lot of stock in, however, is how helpful and great it is to do your photo session before the ceremony. It has so many benefits. Some of them are having a more relaxed photoshoot, allowing for more time, not getting squeezed on schedule because something else ran late, using precious day light that might otherwise be gone if you wait until after the ceremony, and letting you relax and enjoy your guests once the ceremony’s over instead of getting whisked off somewhere else to take pictures. There’s no superstition to think about with that – just real benefits.
I would highly recommend doing the first look. It gives you a few minutes alone together before the real craziness of the day starts up. You’ll be glad for it when it’s all over!”
Ultimately, it is up to the couple to decide what fits them best. I’ll leave you with a couple of wonderful photography shots showcasing both moments:
What would you like? Will you do a first look? If you were to do it over, would you change your decision?